YES, you are doing it, right!
It’s not good enough to just READ about meditation… Actually, doing it is the key.
NO, you don’t need to levitate cross-legged into the sky!
So without further ado Let’s simplify how easy Meditation can be!
The goal in your meditation is to find the rhythmic quality of your breath over and over again
Be introspective and listen to your body
You’d be surprised how much comfort we can find in her own breath can find in our own breath
And since meditating some of the best moments in my day are the moments I savour my breath.
As an anxious person and taking three deep breath before going into stressful situations is so powerful
Before business meeting walking down the hall taking three deep breaths…
Walking from my car to social gathering and being extremely present can help calm my social anxiety…
And I can teach you other triggers to getting you more mindful and meditating. We are going to train your brain to acknowledge the stress response and kick in the parasympathetic nervous system – in charge of slowing our heart rate, breath and relaxing muscles.
I distinctly recall what it was like to be a beginner at Meditation
I didn’t really get it. I remember being very fidgety and just waiting for it to end. Know that this is probably only first 3-5 times once you get over that hump you can become a skilled meditator. Like most things there is a learning curve so don’t let it discourage you. The benefits are so worth it.
Taming the monkey mind was not easy at first. One of the myths that people get wrong about meditation is that you have to stop thinking. That’s simply not true. In fact, most people have 50,000 – 80,000 thoughts in a day. I remember how I felt whenever my monkey mind would bring up to do list, tell me I’m not good enough or highlight the aches and pains in my body. The monkey mind does have its place. It’s the same reminders in your meditation as it is the reminder after your day to day life to set your alarm or remind you of your to do list. So before you go hating monkey, why don’t we try a little loving kindness?
Personally I like naming my monkey. By giving it a silly little name, you give it less power. Morris
… Ehm Morris you distracted me again – and bringing it back to my Anchor.
Begin thinking of the things that distract you the most in your meditation? For me I often find it’s my to do list are the things that I have left to do in the day or if I’m having a shitty day my mind likes to replay my fuck-ups…ugh the worst! For you maybe something completely different. So next time you are meditating take a moment to notice when your mind wanders and what it is that’s distracting you. There will be distractions and that’s OK. With a curious mind, notice and bring it back to breath as your anchor. Notice the distraction, file it in your mind as low importance. And redirect your attention. Bring it back to your breath over and over again.
It might feel good to thank your monkey. When you are doing the aforementioned process of noticing, you can invite some loving kindness by repeating what your monkey has said. Example: Don’t forget to buy milk. Repeat it in your mind. Thank the monkey for the reminder and once again bring the attention to the breath.
Did you get that?
Let me repeat it
- Monkey Mind interruption – Don’t forget to buy milk.
- Repeat it in your mind or out loud “buy milk” ♻️
- Thank the monkey for the reminder 🏻
- and once again bring the attention to the breath.
You choose what you focus on. Continue to build on this practice, use a mantra. I even made you this handy dandy Mantra List. Once again when you find yourself distracted by the monkey mind, take in a deep inhale and exhale. Let it go. On the next breath repeating your mantra. You can see how you can continue to build upon this.
Let’s be brutally honest: I don’t always have a great meditation.
There’s the ones where I wake up feeling groggy from a unexpected nap
Or the Meditation’s where I overthink every detail of my day
There are meditations where I feel my mental illness is highlighted in a negative way – like getting more anxious (but ya it happens)
Unfortunately that’s the reality of the human experience. Not everything all the time is going to be amazing. I don’t always get into a meditative state during my meditation. I’ve learned to allow space between me and my expectation of my meditation. Don’t feel pressure to have an experience, clarity or a trip every time.
Instead I choose to look at my meditation as a savoury luxurious moment to myself. It feels like a warm bath, a cozy cup of coco or like a day at the spa, in my own minds eye.
My Wellness cabin Meditation is a Meditation to take you to your “happy place”Enjoy it now!
I get it. You’ve struggled and you’ve already gotten this far! Congratulations! That’s a feat in it’s self. I’m ready to help you elevate to the next level.